Baek Hyun Woo (Kim Soo Hyun) and Hong Hae In’s (Kim Ji Won) domestic conflict in Queen of Tears ended with the airing of the final episode. This korean drama that raises the issue of household problems has provided many valuable lessons. Not only for those who are married, but also for viewers who are still single.
This is because the conflict presented has started even since the beginning of the marriage. Reflecting on these problems, deep communication with your partner is needed before marriage. Here are five things that must be discussed before marriage according to Queen of Tears.
1. Place To Live
Before deciding to marry your partner, the topic of where to live in the future is a must-discuss. Although it seems trivial, but household comfort can start from where you and your partner live. If the house you live in does not provide comfort, household conflicts can slowly come.
As in Queen of Tears, Hyun Woo who is used to living in a simple house must suddenly adapt to a conglomerate family living under one roof. This makes him uncomfortable because he often intersects with his wife’s family. In fact, his household dream from the beginning was to live peacefully together even in a simple apartment.
2. Financial Issues
Financial issues such as debt also need to be discussed before marriage. By discussing this, you can find out whether your partner is in debt or not. Later, it will be decided whether the debt will be borne together or become the responsibility of each.
This is also shown in Hyun Woo and Hae In’s household. When they were still dating, Hyun Woo promised to accompany Hae In even if she went bankrupt and had debts. Therefore, when Hae In’s family company was seized, Hyun Woo really kept his promise by taking care of all of Hae In’s family and helping to restore Queens Group.
3. Plans To Have Children
Although many people get married with the sole purpose of having children, this topic still needs to be discussed before marriage. Ask your partner why they’re getting married, whether it’s just to have offspring or something else. This is to know the predicted attitude of your partner when you face the problem of difficulty having offspring.
Hyun Woo and Hae In also experienced this problem. His wife was pregnant, but had a miscarriage and has not been blessed with another child until now. Although Hyun Woo was disappointed and this problem became the root of their conflict, but basically Hyun Woo loved Hae In sincerely and accepted her for who she was despite not having children.
4. How Your Partner Solves Problems
Another thing to discuss is how your partner solves problems. Ask how your partner’s communication style is when problems occur in the household. Thus, if you already know your partner’s communication and problem-solving style, there will be no misunderstandings that occur.
Hyun Woo and Hae In have conflicting ways of solving problems. Hyun Woo’s insensitivity and Hae In’s high prestige make them poor communicators. As long as both of them behave this way, problems continue to arise and are often not resolved properly.
5. Your Partner’s Big Family
Knowledge about your partner’s extended family is equally important to discuss before deciding to get married. Ask your partner about the character of his or her family members so that you can easily adapt. Also, ask about their influence in your life, whether they are dominating or not.
In Queen of Tears, Hyun Woo and Hae In didn’t seem to discuss this with each other before marriage. That’s why Hyun Woo told his wife that he felt pressured when he had to adapt to Hong’s big family. Moreover, the Hong family has a habit of dominating their children’s home life.
Some of the conflicts in Queen of Tears can be evidence of how important these five things are to discuss with your partner before marriage. This aims to minimize conflicts that occur in the future. Do you agree that Queen of Tears presents many valuable lessons about domestic life?
